Every day, we are inundated with ideas on how to reframe our perspectives around issues. A new diet to help reframe our relationship with food, an online course on how to change the way we manage finances, a self-help book on how to better understand where your partner is coming from during an argument. All of these are great solutions for certain people in certain situations. But what about an actionable way to reframe something that affects all of us?
We’re talking about stress.
No matter how much or little, we all experience stress on a daily basis. For some of us, it can be debilitating. For others, only a mild annoyance. Whichever area you fall into, stress is an unavoidable part of our lives. We all experience it in different ways, shapes, and forms. The question is, what can we do to make stress…less stressful? Better yet, how can we reframe stress to work for us?
Psychologist Kelly McGonigal is onto something.
In her TED talk, McGonigal drops a bit of a bomb on her audience: research shows that it’s not necessarily stress that’s bad for your health—it’s our beliefs surrounding the stress that are linked to disease and mortality rates.
The people who experienced a lot of stress but did not view stress as harmful were no more likely to die. In fact, they had the lowest risk of dying of anyone in the study, including people who had experienced relatively little stress. A bit of self-assurance mixed with self-awareness forms a perfectly well-adjusted outlook. These are the people we can all aspire to be, because let’s face it, wouldn’t most of us consider our lives more than just “a little” stressful?
“So my goal as a health psychologist has changed,” McGonigal shares. “I no longer want to get rid of your stress. I want to make you better at stress.”
So, do you get the picture?
Stress = fine.
Thinking stress will harm you = not fine.
What can we do to manage our stress, in all its various forms, in a reframed and positive way?
We’ll preface this by saying that this shift in mindset does not come easy. Stress is not something we naturally see from a positive perspective. We need the right tools in order to help us get to this level of stress enlightenment. One such tool could serve to tap into our self-awareness and name what our stress triggers might be based on our personality style. A detailed explanation of these stressors—and so much more personalised, insightful feedback—lies within your Everything Disc Workplace profile. Each user’s profile is personalised based on their responses to an adaptive assessment (many people are shocked by the accuracy) and includes a list of your unique stressors based on your DiSC style. At a glance, here are some common sources of stress for each style.
