Welcome back lovely people to Phase 2- Happiness is an attitude.
Only One thing I ask of you, is if you would be so kind to Please let me know and share with us your experiences of how life begins to change for you!
Struggling to change your attitude in order to be happier? Then read on as this will inspire and guide you to thinking about a happier Life. Feel that you need extra clarification on how to do this? Then Email or Private message me for a free consultation.
Over the last two days we have looked at:
1. What is happiness>
2. Happiness is a Choice.
Today it is ‘Attitude’- You have got the choice to have a wrong attitude that takes you to having a not so easy and unpleasant life or you can make a conscious decision to have a good attitudethroughout life. A good positive attitude creates happiness.
Take a few moments to think what a bad attitude can create… Once again the choice is yours.
This is me: I started to feel much more happier each day, when I consciously decided to change my attitudes and stop blaming others for my unhappiness. I had to take charge. Yes, often people did bring the deepest unhappiness and sadness out of me, but I wanted this to stop. So I took control back into my life. I changed the way I was looking at the problems, basically, I have changed my attitude toward them, deciding what I wanted instead.
Yesterday, in Phase 2- I spoke about Happiness is a Choice, your choice, you can decide the way you want to live your life, making a decision, making a choice, the right choice to be happy.
Now, I probably know what you are thinking right now, even if I decided to be happy, how can I be happy all the time if …. (whatever reason you might have) and I understand that, because I was thinking the same a while ago before I realized that I had to Change my Attitude.
Once you have made that conscious choice (and I emphasise the words again ‘Conscious Choice’) that we want to live a truly happy life; it doesn’t mean it will be a “problems free life.” Now wouldn’t that be awesome? I honestly can’t see this happening so what can we do to keep ourselves happy? and to stick to the choice that you have made?
It’s really simple- all you do is Change your attitude Through Your Life, and by doing so it is simply changing the way you are looking at the problems and situations. I’d like to share another one of my favourite quotes by Wayne Dyer:
“ If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”
This is so true for me and for many people I have coached along the way. Another way to think about it as Johnny Depp quotes:
“ the problem is not the problem- the problem is your attitude about the problem.”
What is your thought on these two quotes? Share your thinking via the comments box or even share your own inspirational quotes about ‘Changing your Attitude”
Do you agree that how you react to the problems, that create our state of mind, once again you are in charge to make a decision?
The way we react to the problem makes a big change in our life because theproblem remains the same, it doesn’t matter how we feel about it, the problem doesn’t change; not thinking all the time about the problem, doesn’t mean we are neglecting it. All we need to do is just spend the right time to find a solution, make a plan and solve it! You must not over think it as thinking about a problem all the time is very stressful and is really bad for you (mentally and physically), our mind can end up confused, buzzing around, creating other or bigger problems than it should be.
Have you ever had that feeling?I did have it, but I managed to change my attitude because I just had enough of feeling worried, frustrated, stressed-out and down, and not happy at all. Since then, I have decided and continue to make the conscious choices to be a happy person, living a happier life; no matter what and whatever happen to me, I am determined to not let anything destroy my sense of happiness.
I ask:
Ø Are you prepared to do something about Changing your Attitude to be full of Happiness?
Ø How prepared and committed are you?
Ø What will it take for you to change your attitude?
1. If something happens that you don’t like, if you can do something about it, do it, if you can’t do anything about it, then tend not to worry or get angry, (it’s pointless, it would only destroy your inner peace) so just accept it and move on, because I firmly believe that there is a reason for everything.
2. Remind yourself that you are not a robot and don’t dwell on bad things and remind yourself that ‘I have a choice to be happy’.
3. In that instant moment of thinking or feeling unhappy a, stop yourself immediatelyand write that feeling and thoughts down and then write the thought, feeling and attitude that you want instead.
4. Don’t neglect the problem, acknowledge it and then consciously change your state of mind and attitude towards it. Take deep breath and visualise as you go through the process.
Remember things will not change unless you take action!
Please do let me know and share with us your experiences of how life begins to change for you! And share other ways that has worked for you to change your attitude towards a happier life!
I leave you with some powerful quotes as I believe that quotes create an impact on our attitude and state of mind:
“It is very important to generate a good attitude, a good heart, as much as possible. From this, happiness in both the short term and the long term for both yourself and others will come.” Dalai Lama
“Happiness doesn’t depend on any external conditions, it is governed by our mental attitude.” Dale Carnegie
“Happiness is in our own hearts. I have no regrets of anything in the past. I’m totally cheerful and happy, and I think that a lot of your attitude is not in the circumstances you find yourself in, but in the circumstances’, you make for yourself.” Maeve Binchy
Join me tomorrow for Phase 3- Happiness is a State of Mind.
